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Creating a fulfilling life may be complex but with the understanding of how the brain and psychology works, this can be ultimately achieved. Purdeep Sangha, Founder and Chief Experience Officer of Sangha International, says that transformation from within requires a certain awareness of everything around you and within you, including your emotions. Purdeep is an authority on transformational psychology, mindfulness, leadership, high-performance, and business growth. He dives into emotional mastery, saying that the brain is designed for emotions that not only impact decisions but also actions. By not letting emotions override the actual natural training and system, a better quality of life can be achieved.

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Turning Your Life Inside Out with Purdeep Sangha

How To Transform From Within

I am honored to have Purdeep Sangha as our guest. Purdeep helps entrepreneurs master themselves so they can master their life. His personal mission is to help men live more fulfilling lives, have passionate relationships and raise happy families. As an entrepreneur, husband and father, Purdeep knows exactly how tough it can be to balance a successful business with a happy family. He is a pioneer in the Inner Force Formula, a system developed using performance psychology, latest neuroscience and the ancient art of mindfulness to align a man’s life, energy, mind and emotions to create exponential confidence, performance, vitality, wealth, time, options, joy and fulfillment. That’s a whole lot of greatness right there. Purdeep, thank you for joining us. Can you tell us your story? How did you get to where you’re at?

First of all, thank you for having me on the show. It’s a privilege, thank you. I appreciate that. I grew up in a small town in Canada. It’s called Kelowna British Columbia. I literally grew up on an orchard. My parents emigrated here from India and my dad came here with $11 in his pocket, and all they knew how to do was manual labor. They started working on an orchard and that’s pretty much how I grew up as a child. They would put me in an apple bin while they were picking apples because sometimes they didn’t have childcare. I grew up in a life of being around nature in a mindful life, which was great from an upbringing perspective. On the flip side, I also learned the work ethic that comes along with having an orchard and getting up at 4:00 in the morning and going out there, not having summer holidays like typical kids and just working my butt off. That’s what led me from one thing to another.

We have that in common. If you were to go straight across the lake, we’re probably about 100 miles apart. I grew up on a farm in New York. We had apples on our property. Not an orchard but just apple trees. I used to love to go pick the apples off the trees when I got off the school bus. We would raise potatoes on our farm. We had cows and all that. I know the work ethic.

It’s a different lifestyle. My parents being typical Indians at that time, they’re immigrants, said, “You need to get an education” and not have to be challenged like they were challenged without having proper education and having to do manual labor. I went down the academic path. I followed that and I fell into the corporate world, although my parents wanted me to be either a doctor, a dentist or a lawyer. That was the path that they were pushing me down. Something happened in the third or fourth year of university where I was going to school and it didn’t feel right. I switched over to financial management. It just so happened that one thing led to another and I got caught in the corporate world.

I was in the corporate world for fourteen years, but I also had this strong passion to help people. Ever since I was a kid at seventeen, I was a personal trainer helping people change their life from a physical perspective. I was always a tutor going through university and not charging, but just doing it because I enjoyed helping other individuals. I was at the point in my career before I started my own business where I was not happy. I was a very successful executive. I had it all. I had the status, the income, a great path in terms of where I was headed. I had it all except for happiness. I didn’t have the relationship I wanted with my wife either because inside I wasn’t fulfilled.

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That was reflecting on who I was as well as my relationship. My wife and I were on the verge of a divorce at that time. We had a young child. I knew I had to do something completely different because I wasn’t feeling authentic. I wasn’t feeling like I was living a life that I was meant to live. I walked into work one day and I quit. I remember the reaction that people had and they said, “Are you crazy? Is something happening? Are you having a challenge in your life in some way, shape or form?” They were questioning my sanity. It was a very interesting time but I just walked away from there.

That’s probably the best thing I ever did from a life perspective because it led me to where I am now. I’ve had some journeys within journeys. What has led me to the path I’m on right now is helping men in particular. I do have female clients as well. I mainly focus on men because I fell into that path and realized that there’s not very much support out there from it. Men are challenged just like women are when it comes to the levels of self-confidence, their levels of not feeling like they’re enough, and their challenges in their relationship. There’s an added pressure on men when it comes to the challenge of this whole concept of masculinity being toxic. Men are being challenged in terms of having that masculine side in a way that is unprecedented.

I’m all for equality and equity when it comes to women. That’s absolutely necessary. Women are doing a great thing. On the flip side, it’s also challenging men to be men. My mission is to help men align themselves and create a fulfilling life. If you have a strong man and a strong woman in the household and the relationship is solid, they raise healthier children. Therefore, society is healthier as well. In a lot of aspects of life, whether it’s in a corporate environment or in the political environment, what we see is a lot of lack of leadership and a lack of real men. My mission and you could call it the mindful crusade, is to get men back to the level where we need to be that is strong, being protective, being mindful of what’s important in life.

It’s led me to where I am. My father passed away suddenly from a heart attack and it was meant to be. His time had come. It’s the turn of events that everything happened. Usually at that time, a year he was with me because they live across the country. For the first time in ten years, he wasn’t out here and he had passed away and he was alone. He’s working on the orchard by himself. My mom wasn’t around. The circumstances all led to him leaving this world. That gave me even more strength. It was a bigger sign for me because it was almost like my dad was saying, “Purdeep, just keep going and to go even harder,” because my dad was an entrepreneur. They had bought their own orchard years ago. My dad also struggled with the fact that he was dealing with challenges when it came to alcoholism and other things in life.

At times he didn’t feel like he was enough, but he was the best man I ever knew. He taught me how to be a man who was very masculine just when you walked into the room. I remember he was a very big stature man. He was in the police force as well for seven years in India. He knew how to carry himself. When he walked into the room, he had a total presence. You could feel his energy and you knew he was in. He was the kindest person and very loving but when he meant business, he meant business. That balance in him was incredible but also the challenges he went through that gave me the precedence that says, “Go out there because there are a lot more guys out there that need help.” That’s where I am and I didn’t expect it to take off as big as it would but it did. That’s how it’s ended up.

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I applaud you and support you because what you said was a truism. There are many things going on in our world. Men’s identity has shifted in many ways and they don’t know how to handle it. You’re doing a great job with that. It’s much needed. I have another friend whose dad and mom came to India. She’s in New York and her name is Dr. Bindu Babu. She is one of my closest friends in the world. I love her dearly. Education is so important to the parents in India and their expectation of their children to achieve that. Dr. Bindu is a medical doctor. She has two PhDs. She’s got Master’s degrees. She has got incredible education, yet she still has this down to earth thing I’ve noticed about the Indian culture. Bindu told me that it’s regional in India. There’s a portion of India where the parents push the children to become either doctors, lawyers or engineers or something like that. How did that affect you?

I would say on two sides. One is I was always the black sheep. To give you a little bit of background, and I don’t know what part of India your friend is from, the area that I’m from, my religious background, although I’m not a practicing Sikh, from a background perspective, I’m Sikh. The word Sikh means to learn. My grandfather was a very avid practitioner in terms of religion. He taught me from the very beginning. He said, “The best thing that you could ever do is learn.” You can learn as much as you want in life. If you’re not aware of things, if you’re not aware of how the world works, how people work, you’re just going to continue to live in your own little world.

That’s where I got it from. My parents wanted it from like, “You don’t want to be suffering as we do.” I was challenged. It took me a while to even tell my parents that I had switched out of sciences into the business side. I was afraid. I didn’t tell them for two years. They thought I was going to be a doctor and at some point in time, I told them and they were devastated. They said, “What are you doing?” I was great at academics and had I followed that path, I would have become a doctor but it wasn’t for me. That pressure impacts people in general, even in children. I’m very careful, having experienced that myself, in terms of how I raised my children because I don’t want to put my expectations on them. I want to push them as hard as I can, but I don’t want to put my expectations on them in terms of what I believe they should do.

The biggest thing is that I’m a very passionate person. That, for me, is the most important thing in life is passion. If their passion is to clean houses, for example, we have a couple that comes and helps clean our place and they are passionate about what they do. They love it and they take pride in it. If that’s your passion, continue that passion. My dad’s passion was to grow apples and cherries. That was his biggest passion. He was so proud of it. Whatever your passion is, I’m a firm believer you need to follow that. That’s how I tried to raise my children. Going back to your question, it was difficult because it was a path of, “Do I follow my passion or do I just make people happy?” What the majority of people do is make other people happy.

I write a lot about expectations and I researched them because I believe that our expectations are a gift from God and that it’s implanted in us at birth or conception or however, whatever you believe in. We look at our expectations through two lenses, either faith or fear. Fear stops everything. Faith puts it through and faith isn’t always a religious thing. It could be faith in some coach or any number of ways. The most important thing is having faith in yourself. One of the things you brought up that I resonated with is at nine years old, I was abandoned and had to figure out life on my own. Not abandoned in the traditional sense of being brought to the fire station steps.

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My parents didn’t divorce but they went separate ways because of circumstances. Their children, we had to fend for ourselves and figure out life when we were left at the farm to do all the chores and all kinds of things. One of the things that I learned that resonate with what you said is when I was nine years old, I had a conversation with God on a hilltop and heard a voice that said, “Just be and do. Be patient and everything will come your way.” From that point on, I started looking at everything in life as a learning experience and every event in my life. I’m a Vietnam vet. I went to Vietnam as a Marine. Through that and through the loss of my wife in 2006 to ovarian cancer, all the major tragedies in my life, I’ve always looked at everything as a learning experience. You cannot have a failure when you learn something from it.

My perspective was not looking at anything as something was happening to me. I never took that victimization. I took the knowledge that I was gaining from the event and taking it to propel my life and it’s made a huge difference. I think you did that too. You had an epiphany that you did not want to be an accountant or be in the financial field. You want to be happy, to serve and you took action. That’s the other key to everything. People have all these thoughts, expectations and epiphanies all the time but they don’t do anything with them. They just don’t do anything. It’s fear that stops them. If you’re fearful, you’re not going to get anything done. You’re not going to live your true passion and your true identity. What are your thoughts?

I completely agree. It’s all those what-ifs that hold us back in life. That is the worst thing that you can do. That’s why it’s important. That’s why I focus on the corporate world. It was a very interesting experience for me because I was always a go-getter. I was always known as the guy that blow things up, put things back together and make things better. I realized because I had gotten this reputation that I did things that other people didn’t want to do. They didn’t want to rock the boat. They didn’t want to put in all the effort. They didn’t want to take a chance to do something different.

I did that throughout my entire life, and it made me wonder, “Why are people not able to do this?” I’ve studied psychology, neuroscience and mindfulness for decades now. It came down to me and that’s why I’ve come down to this path. A lot of people talk about, “You change your perspective, change your mindset. Do this,” but there’s no system behind it. That’s tough for people because you can read a book, and I’ve experienced these many times with individuals, but they won’t make a change. They’ll take one concept and they work with it for a little bit, but then nothing comes out of it.

SE 26 | Emotional MasteryFor me, it was that key moment that hit me that I said, “What is the difference between a person living A-life and a person living B-life, A-entrepreneur, B-entrepreneur, whatever the situation is?” I could give the exact same information to two different people. They would take it in two completely different ways and execute differently. That bridge for me came together, which is a self-mastery component. If you can master yourself, then you can master life. We’re trained and we’re ingrained that everything is about external. Especially if you want to grow your business, you’ve got to have the latest marketing, you’ve got to have the technology, and do all this. People need to realize that all of that is secondary because the people that are running the show are the most important thing.

There’s someone behind the technology. There’s someone behind the systems. If they’re not up to par, if they’re not able to master themselves and make decisions effectively and take action, then you’re not going to get the results whether it’s in business and in life. That’s a philosophy and that’s what I’ve been studying. That’s what I’ve put together for the programs that I have for individuals in terms of, “How do you master yourself?” I’m a firm believer through philosophical means in terms of learning from the great leaders of pastimes through to the neuroscience and psychology that it comes down to being able to lead yourself. What I talk about in aligning, and I’m sure you can relate, is the alignment of your energy, your life energy, your thoughts and your emotions. Once that’s in alignment, then you’re in a state of total power and creation. Most people are not in that state or if you’re in that state, you feel it momentarily. People have felt that. There are probably times in a person’s life where they felt like nothing could hold them back. You were on top of your game and you just felt alive.

I’ve taught myself to live in the moment because when you live in the moment, you enjoy life much more and you’re focused on that. I’m very mindful of that. My expectations are the other part because I’d become so in tuned to them. It’s made a huge difference in my life. Everybody always used to ask me, because I own my own business for 35 years before my wife died and all that, they always said, “Everything you touch turns to gold and you’re always so happy.” I say, “It’s because I live in the moment and I take each moment at a time and do. I don’t stop doing. I’m going to do until the day I go.” Just like your dad out in the orchard, I’m going to be out on my orchard and do it. My orchard is the whole world. I love living. When people learn how to change their perspective in being mindful and using it to the betterment of themselves, I couldn’t agree more. People need to become more introspect.

As a matter of fact, Expectation Therapy is my book. It’s based on a physics formula. The formula of expectation that scientists use. I convert it into a behavioral model. It’s based on three things that are very simple and basic: identify, clarify and solidify what’s the written plan and then carry it out. I’ve had great success in coaching people, businesses and corporations doing that. People need to start identifying what they want. I call it wants, needs, desires and start identifying them and working towards fulfilling them. It’s life-changing. You and I are proof of that. There’s a freedom in it that the common man doesn’t just get there. They get too wrapped up in the external. They try to live to the expectations of the people that surround them instead of the expectations of themselves. Your core expectations, I call them because it’s so important.

Even in the financial market, if you’ll look at every corporation, they have forecasts, the expectations of their forecast, of what they’re going to perform. We’re bombarded with expectations every day. That’s part of the problem for man, we have so many expectations every day from the most basic thing as breathing to the most complicated mathematical or complicated problems solving things we have. We have thousands of expectations every day. We don’t focus on them. We become mindful of them. That’s what men have to do. It’s amazing what it can do for somebody but people are so resistant to it. Don’t you see that?

I see that quite a bit because people are caught up in the go, go, go these days. They don’t have time to sit back and be mindful.

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I have great admiration for some of the real young people that are not going to college first, traveling and doing all the things they want. I have a friend here in Austin that moved from San Francisco. She’s been to 66 countries around the world by herself. She runs her business. She makes enough money to go from place to place. She’s maybe 30 to 33 years old and she’s decided to make Austin her home. She’s felt like she’s traveled all that she wants to. She wants to settle down. I’ve got to commend people like that because that takes a lot of guts for a young lady to travel around the world. She’s been everywhere, India, Bangladesh, Vietnam, the Orient, Europe. There are a lot of young people out there and I commend them for living what they want at a life. I want to know more about your neuroscience and some of your background in psychology. Where did you go to school?

I’ve been to a number of different schools. From an academic standpoint, I’ve been to probably five or six institutions. My formal education is in finance, management, innovation and also executive leadership. I’m a certified executive leader. I’m a certified innovation executive and got my MBA in innovation. From that standpoint, I have a lot of formal education on the business and innovation side, and neuroscience, psychology and mindfulness have been a passion of mine. What I did and because I come from an operations background and I’m very systematic. I had to put together a system because I had to be clear in my mind to say, “All of these practical thoughts are great but you take something from physics, you need to make it practical.” I took and said, “What are the most important characteristics, factors or pillars to get someone to master themselves so they can master their life?” I nailed it down to ten and its components of neuroscience, psychology and mindfulness.

Once you understand how the brain works and you understand how psychology works, the awareness component of knowing that in itself is very powerful. Just knowing that your brain sends signals in a certain way so you don’t have to react. Even if you do react, you don’t have to judge yourself. You can say, “That was my brain doing that.” You forgive yourself and you move forward. You slowly are able to do exercises where you take control of your brain. That’s very important. As people, we are our worst enemies because we judge ourselves first. We judge the way we look. We judge the way we act. If we say the wrong thing, we’re judging ourselves. We need to give ourselves a break. Sometimes we need to say, “Maybe that was a response out of fear. Maybe it was a response out of evolution.” You’re more open and you’re more susceptible to feeling human rather than feeling like you need to be perfect.

Is this the inner force formula that you’re describing?

SE 26 | Emotional MasteryThe inner force formula has taken to the three accounts. It’s the alignment of your energy, your mind, your thoughts and your emotions. There are nine components. One is what you talked about being in the present moment. The here and now is very important because you have zero energy in the future and you have zero energy in the past. You cannot hit a baseball tomorrow, you cannot hit a baseball today if I gave you a bat and a ball. You can only hit a baseball at this moment. When you realized the physics behind that, you will say, “That makes sense.” That in itself is important because 80% of most people’s day is thinking about the future and the past. Think about it from this perspective. If you have 100 units of energy because your brain consumes energy, it consumes about 20% of your daily calories. If 80% of those calories go towards something that you can’t even do right now, you have 20% left to make an impact.

You have to understand. The more you are here now thinking about the present moment, the more impact you can have and the stronger results, the more power you have. That is a big focus. The second one is understanding the masculine and the feminine forces within each human being. Heterosexual men have more of a masculine, heterosexual women have more of a feminine. In this society, that’s why I’m so passionate about this is because men are trained to subdue their masculine energy and women are being trained to have more masculine energy and it’s throwing off the balance. That polar opposite attraction that you have between the masculine and feminine energy is dwindling these days in a lot of relationships. Men are not able to live that masculine side. Women are expected to be more of the providers and step up more and that’s throwing off the balance.

It’s important for an individual, whether you’re a man or you’re a woman, to understand that there are two types of energies that should be aligned with whichever fits for you and whichever feels more comfortable for you. I’m going to share an example. My wife comes from a split home and she was raised by her mother. Her father had remarried and has his own family, but my mother-in-law had trained my wife to be independent of the perspective of, “Get an education, be successful, get a high paying job. You don’t need to worry about having a man. You need to get married. You need to have children, but don’t rely on your man.” That was one of the challenges that we had in our relationship.

We have so much in common. My late wife was raised in an identical way. You don’t rely on a man. Get yourself an education. Get yourself a profession. Make a great income. You don’t have to worry and lean on a man.

Our relationship was completely out of balance because even though I know this stuff, even though I coached on this stuff, I accept back and calmed my masculine side down. I didn’t step up for the values that I believed in. The moment that a man or even a woman didn’t step up for your own values, that’s when you’re taking away from yourself. I wasn’t stepping into my masculine force, which was enabling her to be more masculine. Long story short, the minute I said, “That’s it, done,” I put my foot down. I brought myself back into the masculine force and it forced her to be more feminine.

Our relationship changed almost in a heartbeat. She said to me and she still says it, “Thank God,” because she was tired of trying to play a role that she wasn’t comfortable with. She was being raised and trained to be that way but her internal essence as a woman was to be more feminine. That brought our relationship stronger and we have an amazing relationship. That’s the second component. There’s nine of them. I could go through some more if you’d like. I know you might have some other questions.

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What role does emotional intelligence play in? I’m big into emotional intelligence because when people cannot identify their emotions, become mindful of them, know what they mean and how they want to use them, it’s a very powerful tool in their war chest.

It’s probably the most powerful because you have those three buckets. You have life energy, which is very important. That is the fundamental component. If you can’t master that, it’s hard to master your thoughts and it’s hard to master your emotions. The second one is your thoughts, your mind and your brain. The third one is the emotional mastery and every single thing that you do as a human being, I do as a human being, and you do out there as you’re reading this is based on your emotions, is based on feelings. That’s how your brain is designed. You cannot go around that because from an evolutionary standpoint, this is how your brain is designed. If you understand this, this will help you. It’s designed to keep you safe and protect you from the disease. It’s designed to create status among others, affiliate with others, find a mate, keep a mate and take care of your children so your offspring survive and carry on the species.

Those are the seven things your brain is designed to do. That’s how you think. That’s how your emotions are designed to operate. If you understand that along with the other components of emotional mastery in terms of the different buckets of emotions, how to deal with your emotions, that is very critical because your emotional state is what determines your quality of life better. The bottom line is if you want a better quality of life, work on your emotions. Work on quality emotion. When I work with people and even entrepreneurs that are saying, “I need to grow my business by X amount,” what I say to them is, “Tell me what emotions you want to feel.” They’re like, “What are you doing? Why would you ask me this question? You’re supposed to be this guy that’s about business growth and self-mastery.”

I get them to work backwards. If they’re going to increase their business by double or whatever amount it is, is it going to create the emotions that they want? If it’s not, they’re going to put themselves in a bigger hole. We work backward and we say, “What are the emotions? What life do you have to have designed to amplify those emotions? Does your business support that or is it taking away from that?” Your emotions are the fundamental foundation for everything that you do, everything that you feel and the decisions that you make. I’d been to Stanford and a lot of the research done that Stanford is about decisions, action taking and performance. 95% of your decisions are based on emotions. That’s been proven by research now.

SE 26 | Emotional MasteryYour emotions also impact not only your decisions but your actions. The more emotions and the stronger the emotions that you put in and the types of emotions that you put into your decisions, impact your execution and actions. People always come across these two where I get very smart people that say, “I’m very logical. I’m going to make this decision.” They make a very logical decision but they didn’t put any emotion behind it. What do they have? They have a logical decision with no passion, no drive and no commitment behind it. Are you going to execute as well? Probably not. That’s why you need to understand that emotions are fundamental. That’s why passion, feeling love, feeling joy and even inner peace are important emotions to feel in life because that’s how you get further ahead. Long story short, emotional mastery, emotional intelligence is absolutely critical.

I read somewhere in your background that you’ve worked with athletes and helping them. Is that true?

When I was a personal trainer, yes. Some of the individuals were athletes down.

I work with some athletes with expectations and how to use their expectations to increase their athletic performance. They’re very easy to work with because you already know how to manage their expectations more than most people, athletes do. How do you use emotional intelligence and your system with athletes to get them to perform better?

I don’t work with athletes very much anymore. I worked with very high performing entrepreneurs and even entrepreneurs that want to change their life or make more money or even professionals. From an athlete perspective, it’s very interesting because it’s almost the flip side. Depending on the moment you have, there are different perspectives on how an athlete needs to perceive things. The number one reason why athletes do not perform at the moment wherein they’re playing the sport is because of emotions. It’s because they’re letting their emotions override their actual natural training and their system.

What I’ve worked with athletes to work through, and this is through performance psychology, is that you need to be focused on the goal. You need to be externally focused, meaning that you need to put yourself and not think about your internal feelings, but think about what’s out there, what you’re going towards. When you do that, you’re more likely to achieve your goals. The reason why some athletes have a hiccup is that they go internal sometimes and they start thinking about their feelings a little bit too much. Sometimes when you get a little bit caught up in the moment and if you’re not 100% confident, you can throw yourself off from a performance level perspective. It’s outside of the act of performing that sport where emotions come in, where you talk to them about mindfulness.

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When they’re outside of performing, that’s when they’re most nervous. They were always thinking about, “This game is coming up. I need to perform at this level,” or “I’m seen as this and I need to keep my status up.” That’s when the internal focus comes in. That’s when you take them back to those moments and bring them back to the moments that they were performing successfully. You get them to feel those emotions. Emotions are very powerful for athletes from my perspective. It’s been shown that using their internal reflection outside of the actual sport is more important than focusing on emotions while they’re playing, just from my experience.

I always get interested when you see the guys on the sidelines in football games. They’re jumping up and down and they’re tied up emotionally. I often wonder, they get thrown into the game and I know because I used to play baseball at a semi-pro low level. I was a catcher so I controlled a lot of the action in the game and I was always involved in the game. When I played, people thought I was weird because I was always so focused on the game. Everything became oblivious around me. A bomb could have gone off and I wouldn’t know it because I was so focused on the game.

That’s my passion. That’s how it manifested itself. I’m very intense but I also confused people because I’m very emotional in the sense that I cry. I’m not afraid to cry. When I was in combat and we would get into a firefight, I’d have tears running down my face. Guys look over and go, “You’re crying. Why are you crying?” They would think I was crying because I was scared or anything. It’s how I released my tension and stuff. Even now when I get tense and something’s pressuring me or anything like that, if I cry, I get more focused. It’s part of my focus. I don’t know how it became that way. Sometimes I think it’s weird.

That’s great. That’s important because you need to have both sides, that balanced side. A misconception too for men is that they’re not able to allow themselves to show their emotions.

SE 26 | Emotional MasteryI go to a movie and people go, “What is that guy sobbing about?” I don’t have any shame. I just do it. If people like it or don’t like it, they’ve got to work on their stuff because for me it works. I would rather be that involved in things and feel what other people feel. When animals get hurt, it bothers me and I feel a lot of that stuff. Everybody always asks me am I an empath? I always say, “I’m not an empath. I feel things like that.”

We have a similar background. Maybe it’s going up in the outdoors. I have the exact same way. I have an affinity for animals. I grew up like whenever there was an injured animal, somehow people bring it to my house. That’s an important side for you in the profession that you were in, in terms of working with individuals. That’s why it’s important and very unique for men to have that skill because in order to get through, and this is my personal experience, to get the biggest results that I get especially with men, I have to be able to feel and I have to be able to get inside them. I have to get them to feel what I feel because if they know that I’m there for them, they can trust me that I honestly have their best interests at heart. All I want to do is help them live a better life. They’re more likely to ask you, open up, and take the stuff that I’m showing them, teaching them and implement it. If you have that rock solid part outlook, which is the old school performance coaching for athletes, it’s not as effective. It’s effective in some places and in some cultures, but it’s not effective now, especially in North America.

I relate to people on an emotional level and that’s why people relate back to me. I can go to New York and be on a subway or an airplane and have a conversation that is so deep and personal. My wife says to me sometimes, “How did you get that person to tell you about their life and stuff?” She’s in the medical field. If you’re wondering, I remarried many years ago or eight years after I lost my wife. I’ve married another nurse and it’s the best thing I ever did. She’s a wonderful woman and supports me. She always wonders, we’ll go to some event where she’s with all the doctors that she works with and everything. All of a sudden, they’re all telling me their stories and what’s going on in their relationships. That’s a gift that God has given me and I cherish it and use it for the betterment of mankind. That’s my blessing.

That’s much needed. It’s funny you mentioned that because my wife’s a nurse practitioner. We have a lot more similarities than we think of.

Mine is a nurse anesthetist. She does anesthesia. We’re getting close to our sign off time. I wanted to give you the opportunity to close it out and tell everybody where they can get ahold of you and what we can do to support you in any way that we can. It’s been a pleasure.

Thank you for having me. I can tell, you seemed like a very genuine person. I can feel your energy from that perspective. Thank you for having me on the show. In terms of getting ahold of me, you can always go to the website which is TheMaleEntrepreneur.com. I also have The Male Entrepreneur podcast where we talk about guy stuff. I’m also excited because I’m launching a program here for the masses. We’re going to take that inner force formula. It’s an online program for individuals to be able to create that self-mastery within themselves and master their life and business. I’m excited about that as well.

That’s going to be great. I’ve got to keep up with that. We’ll have you back because I love connecting with people that are like-minded. We do have many similarities. Thank you so much, Purdeep. It’s been a pleasure meeting you and thank you for being on the show.

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About Purdeep Sangha

SE 26 | Emotional MasteryPurdeep Sangha is an authority on transformational psychology, mindfulness, leadership, high-performance and business growth. He is also a pioneer in the art and science of MINDFUL MASCULINITY.
His inspiration for The Male Entrepreneur was his father, who ironically passed away shortly before seeing Purdeep’s vision come true. His father was an entrepreneur who had immigrated here from India with $11 in his pocket. He worked a minimum wage labor job for many years before starting his own business. Purdeep learned many lessons from his father. Positive attributes such as values, being strong as a man, masculinity, and never giving up. But he also learned the challenges that came along with being a struggling entrepreneur: the feelings of guilt, not being good enough, and addictions. Seeing his father struggle and having struggled himself,
Purdeep’s motivation is to ensure that other male entrepreneurs have the knowledge, tools, and skills to create a more profitable business and fulfilling life for them and their family.
He grew up in a small town in British Columbia, Canada. He started working on an orchard at the age of 9 and at 16, he was managing over 50 people. He still considers himself to be an orchard boy as his family still has an orchard growing apples and cherries.
Throughout his years, Purdeep was committed to studying successful businesses and was determined to find out what made one entrepreneur more successful over another. He spent thousands of hours studying the best businesses around the world and also attended four of the top business schools in North America such as MIT, Stanford, Ivey, and Schulich. Prior to starting his own business, Purdeep was a successful executive at a multi-billion dollar organization and led various divisions and initiatives such as Marketing, Sales, Customer Experience, Operations, Project Management, and Innovation.
Now, Purdeep dedicates his time to helping other entrepreneurs and spending time with his family.
He also loves to podcast, workout, learn new things, and spend time in nature with animals.

Purdeep’s Certifications:

• Executive MBA In Innovation Leadership
• Certified Innovation Executive
• Certified Lean Blackbelt (Operations)
• Certified in Business Operations Excellence
• Certified True Colors Facilitator
• Certified in Financial Management

 

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