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SE 33 | Shine Your Bright

 

Fear is what hinders the light within you from shining its brightest. Heather Breedlove, the author of Shine Your Bright, speaks on how you can stay rational when life throws you curveballs. Chief Financial Officer of Keyston Bros. and co-founder of Choose Goodness, she touches on the essence of journaling and the importance of identifying your expectations and what you want. Because life should be all about sharing, learn why you should live life to the fullest and trust your gut feelings. On the side, find out why traveling is good for the soul.

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Shine Your Brightest with Heather Breedlove

My guest is Heather Breedlove and she’s from Atlanta, Georgia. She is the author of Shine Your Bright. She is the Chief Financial Officer of Keyston Brothers and Cofounder of Choose Goodness. Her success is on the rise. She’s a super girl and like so many of us, she grew up striving for the perfect life, a fairy tale romance and a successful career. While working away way through the checklist of accomplishments, she found a disconnect. The person she was at home was not the person she was at work or even the person she is. She was playing the role rather than participating in life. She found excitement in bringing her full self to every aspect of our life.

Through her book Shine Your Bright, she hopes to find peace and courage so you can do the same. All too often, life throws us curve balls or we end up on autopilot ready to implode. We find ourselves burying our feelings just to keep everyone and everything around us afloat. If it’s time to start to release some of the pressure and get to know yourself again, with Heather’s help, you can start to remember the real you and unlock the emotions you have held so closely all this time. Heather, welcome to the show. It’s going to be a pleasure. I know we’re going to have some fun and audience, Heather Breedlove. Can you tell us your story?

Thank you, Art. I am so excited to be here. Definitely out of Atlanta, Georgia, which we have hit a hot one all of a sudden and it is right after Memorial Day. My story, if I rewind a bit, starts in small-town America. I grew up I like to say it was what every child would imagine or want with white picket fences playing out in the backyard. The town I grew up in had 3,000 people. It was very small and very intimate, but it was an amazingly safe place to grow up. I will say I hit the door at eighteen. I had high aspirations for myself. I went to the University of Georgia. I got a degree in accounting and took my career path that way. I met my husband Tommy while I was in school. I thought I was on track and “the checklist” to do exactly how I’ve laid my life out when I was growing up, what I wanted it to look like.

I laugh and I don’t know how many girls my age had this checklist where you’re off to college, you meet your husband, you’ve got your career, you’re married by 25 and have children by 32. You keep working your way down that. For me, I made it to a particular spot in that checklist and then things just stopped happening. I ended up at 25 right after Tommy and I got back from our honeymoon. My dad was diagnosed with stage four melanoma cancer and we lost him. We were married in June and he was gone in Thanksgiving. That’s when I started realizing, I don’t know how to quite adjust when you’ve laid out this image of what you want your life to look like and it’s no longer going to happen. I knew he wouldn’t be around to see grandchildren or my brother’s wedding and that throws a little bit of a curveball per se. To keep going as I had to navigate this, it turned out we didn’t have children either. I was on autopilot working my way through life until one day I turned around and said, “What do I want?” I have to deal with all these curve balls per se. How do I replace those with things that are going to make me happy? It made me take a deep dive into what I wanted out of life.

Our lives are a juxtaposition of it because mine was the complete opposite where I did not have anyone to put any knowledge in my head about asking about what to expect from my life. I pretty much had to live from day-to-day to survive because I was abandoned. It left me in a position of not knowing where you knew where you wanted to go and weren’t happy with it.

I tried not to make light of it but I started thinking, “When we grow up, they teach us Math and English in school but there is nothing around relationships or going out to learn and gather the tools you need to help yourself navigate and then take it even a step further. They don’t teach you about your financial scenario either. I feel that’s something I want younger people to realize. It’s so much more than just your textbook on having those life skills.

I agree because I tell an interesting story. I grew up in a town of about 105 people in total. There were twenty of us in my senior class. I asked the prettiest girl in school to go to a dance with me and she turned around and said, “I wouldn’t go to a dance with you if you were the last person on earth,” and it devastated me. It was because I had never been taught about deodorant. Isn’t that sad? My parents had never even said a word to me about applying deodorant. It was dysfunction across the board.

My parents loved me, but they didn’t educate me. My sister and I had to learn everything on our own. We had to figure out everything. As I got older, I realized at that time, it was a detriment, but it has served me well because I have chosen to look at things through everything is a learning process in life. It has propelled me to heights where I made a choice that I wasn’t going to let anything bother me. I learned that my expectations mattered most and what I expected of myself. That’s what I needed to satisfy my life, to live a happy life and I’ve done it.

It’s amazing what choice, and even your perspective when you’re attacked one given day, how it can shift. “I don’t want to go to work,” or “Thank goodness I get to go to work and here are all the positives I have in front of me.” It is so much of internal perception and you’re right.

SE 33 | Shine Your BrightYou hit the nail on the head. Our choices are what we can control and our expectations. I’ve always believed that our epiphanies are a precursor to our expectations, and my research has proved it. It’s so important that people realize or young people particularly, that they have to live to their set of expectations for themselves and not to the expectations of others. When they do that, they become unhappy. I am going to make a little assumption. I think when you started living to the expectations of others, and what they wanted, you gave up something from yourself.

You do and I even talk about this with my friends. We had gotten to a point where you do place so many roles in life. You play a role at work. You play the role of a mother or a daughter, sibling. Everyone does have those expectations around you. The way Shine Your Bright was even born is I particularly got to a point where it’s not happily ever after. Tommy and I had hit some rough patches in our marriage, even as we’re navigating through that, it’s still, “What can I do to make someone else happy?” Just slowly, those little pieces of you that you used to know so well, they start to tick away.

It gets to the point where if you go out to lunch alone, do you even know what you’d want to order anymore? You had been so engaged with trying to keep everyone else around you happy. I’ve seen women sit down, you finally hit your breaking point and they’re crying on you, “Where do I even go from here?” With Shine Your Bright, what I was able to do is go ordinary. It is a journal format, but it’s imagery where you can go to an ordinary everyday picture. There are some prompts around that picture to start to introduce yourself to you again and start in little small private spaces building up that confidence so you do know who you are.

I think that’s one thing that’s important for people to understand. How do you eat an elephant? You eat it one bite at a time. You’ve got to segment and tackle the most important things first that you want to change and start to regain. You can’t do it all at once. Life doesn’t work that way.

We always laugh. You could Jerry Maguire it and just drop everything and walk out. The chances are later that takes a take a minute to put back together.

What else do you bring to us in Shine Your Bright?

I’ve got the journal. I’ve got a couple more in the series coming out revolving around sickness, which is very close to my heart where many of us end up sitting in a hospital waiting room. When you’re waiting on a loved one to go through or if they’re there for a while and it’s scary sitting there with your own thoughts. My second journal that is coming out evolves around sickness and navigating the transitions of illness. Since we had talked about having to go out and build your toolkit and learn a lot of things, my husband and I are also working together in a space to help couples too and to coach through the transitions of marriage. We had a lot of exciting things on the horizon.

That is exciting because I think one of the truths that you spoke that I liked it is that in school we’re not taught any life skills or any financial skills. Those are the two biggest things in our life that caused this evil. This evil destroys a marriage faster than anything. The second is not knowing how to navigate through the everyday expectations of marriage and relationships. I love that you’re doing journaling because it’s an effective way. I teach an online course on how to master your expectations and a heavy part of that course is journaling. I do an interactive journal during the course. It’s good. I’m glad you’re doing that.

It’s amazing what comes to the surface, where a lot of times you can go back and say, “I do feel that way.” My best friend and I joke. We’re like, “Once I tell you about something that makes it real and that means I have to deal with it.” That’s the way a journal is. Once you write it down, you are admitting it to yourself and then it’s out in the open for you to navigate.

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Anytime you write anything down, you can hold yourself accountable and others can hold you accountable to it. That’s the true key to success, accountability. I tell people, your expectations can stay in your head, but that’s all it is. It’s merely an expectation. An expectation comes to reality when you hook it with action and make it accountable. That’s when it becomes a reality.

It’s so much easier for us to hide behind that mask on being your true self when it’s all tucked in, and nobody knows about it.

You’re not accountable to anybody, and I think the best part of the reason why it’s so important is to be able to identify your expectations and what you want. Even more than your expectations is what you want. Once you know what you want and you get it clarified and then work towards making it happen, things change in your life.

What’s scary is as I was getting older too, I don’t know if you have any experiences this way but it was so easy to go through a day without setting an intention about what you want out of your life and not necessarily bucket list items. That’s certainly part of it, but imagine what do you want your life to be? How do you want to feel that day and not turning around in 50 years saying, “It’s been an hour in the car commuting every day, and I did it for my family and hopefully, I didn’t miss out on my life in the process.” It’s that weird intention setting to make sure that it’s all available. My dad when he passed away, he was 52. That left a mark on me to say, “I don’t want to do necessarily like he did and say when I retire, I’m going to live my life.” Have it all in front of me to be excited every day.

When I was nine and I was feeling so abandoned, and it became about in an odd way. It was not the traditional abandonment. We all have these incidences in our lives where we have to come to Jesus with ourselves. I think it happened to me at nine because I went to the top of the hill, laid on my back and had a conversation with God. I asked Him what was going to become of me. I set the intention at that point in my life that I was going to be happy. That my happiness was my intention for my life. I have gone through life as one of the happiest people you will ever meet. I’ve done everything I’ve ever wanted to do. I’ve worked in the entertainment business. I played semi-pro baseball. I’ve been a mental health counselor. I went to college. I went to Vietnam as a marine. Literally, I always tell people the day that God decides to take me and I can honestly say I live the happiest life there is.

I say that too. That’s certainly a measure. It can be scary to my friends when I say it, but I’m like, “I could check out and have had the most amazing life possible.” There’s something to be said for feeling that way.

I think it’s great. I wish that everybody could do that. I have a lot of admiration for the young people that don’t go to college and that you see them going off. I have a friend in Austin who just turned 30. She has been to 65 countries by herself working from all these locations remotely, traveled, seen more and learned more than most people do in a lifetime.

That does lead you back in to start thinking about fear to you. My husband and I travel a lot. It’s one of the things that we love and adore. It exposes you to so many cultures and helps you think about different perceptions that we have that you just expand your knowledge of how people live. With that though, you share your life on Facebook and whatnot. A lot of people are like, “I want to travel but,” there’s the fear of this and the fear of that. On the other hand, we have some that are inspired to go out and take life by the horns and it’s so exciting to watch those smiles coming in.

What’s your favorite country to travel to?

SE 33 | Shine Your BrightThey’re all beautiful in their own way. I will say Ireland still has my heart and I don’t know why. It felt almost like home.

Do you have Irish roots genetically?

If I look at all the last names, I have a Hegwood. I have a Maguire. I have a Crosby. I think they all filter into Ireland. I am not redhead and fair skinned by any means. Who knows?

It’s funny you say that because my name is Costello and everybody goes Italian. I’m not Italian. Do you know what I am?

What’s that?

Irish. Look at some of the histories that one of the premiers of Ireland was John Costello. There’s that heavy Costello. I have dark hair and I’m dark skinned. It’s from the Spanish armada crashing on the northern tip of Ireland. Spaniards are having fun with the Irish girls. Everybody always assumes that I’m Italian and I’m not. It’s always interesting to see people’s reaction when I say I’m Irish.

It’s getting to be one big pot too.

I don’t think that our makeup psychologically is dictated by where we are from or where our genetics are.

There are still core values in people.

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Have you been to Croatia?

I have not. We started making a list of places that are high on the list and that certainly is one of them.

I loved Croatia. When we went there, I’m a people person. The people were so incredibly friendly, caring and kind. You know what I’ve noticed, the countries that I visit that have gone through some turmoil, war, famines, different things like that, the people there have a different perspective on life. They throw a lot of the ideas that we have about different countries. They seem more friendly and warm. I don’t know if you’ve noticed that.

I had a tendency to notice warm or I feel like that’s natural because I did grow up in a small town. That environment is very different from saying if I’m walking down the streets of Atlanta, but you’re right. Having a community around a common experience goes a long way with humanity.

Maybe being from the south because I noticed when I go and travel in the United States, I can go to certain parts of the country and the people are more standoffish. Even though the cultures there are very diverse in everything. I can’t go anywhere without talking to people. I know no strangers. I have no strangers in my life. If I meet you and we bump into each other in a grocery store, I’m going to know everything about you within the next ten minutes. I draw that out of people. I think that they see that I care. That’s part of the makeup of who we are in the south. We seem to care more.

In curiosity, I love to hear and it sounds like you too to feel about what other people think makes them happy, what their struggles are because once you can get in and have that conversation, it is a mirror. You start seeing how you feel about your perspective of your life based on their experiences too.

I almost look at it as more I love to teach people and there is a no better way than through stories of being able to teach people that they can overcome things. When I lost my wife to ovarian cancer years ago, for three years I was devastated and I lost myself. I had to find my way back. When we have so many experiences in our lives, it gives us the opportunity to share those. If we don’t share, what’s the sense of being here? I think of life is all about sharing.

Was there one particular day after that three years that you were like, “This the day for me to integrate back into the world?” Was it smaller than that?

My kid slapped me upside the head. After Vicki passed, I started acting pretty terrible and doing stuff that I hadn’t done before. I hadn’t been a big drinker. I was drinking every day. I was hermitizing myself. We have a ranch outside of Austin, I stayed at the ranch and isolated myself. They came and said, “Dad, you promised that you wouldn’t do this. You told mom you wouldn’t do it and you turned right around and did it.”

SE 33 | Shine Your BrightTaking that time in that space for yourself, sometimes you need it.

The grieving process is a process. We have to go through the grieving and there are certain steps to it that we have to experience. I tell the story too often probably. When the kids left that night at 2:00 in the morning, I woke up, went back and laid on the lawn of the ranch. I looked into the sky and asked God, “What was going to become of me again?” I heard this voice inside of me that said, “I’ve given you all the tools, you just need to apply them and use them.” I think that that’s the important thing that we all need to learn. We have all the tools necessary to live, to survive and thrive. We have to use them.

A big part of that is feeling it. Knowing what your soul and your body are telling you. We can stay so busy that we don’t notice it. When we do get hit with death, sickness or grief, it’s painful because we’re not used to taking the time to feel those emotions.

How much emphasis do you put on trusting your gut feelings and reactions?

I inherently on everything, Art. Tommy, my husband, is a quick thinker and he’ll ask me a question. It will take me a minute to process because I’ve got to let my head process. I’ve got to let my emotions process. He’s like, “It’s a simple yes and no.” I’m like, “No, just give me a minute.” I’ve learned to give myself space because if you did it wrong, that means you’ve got to do twice. I started exploring when I put this together, I love living and happy. I thrive on laughter. I want that uncontrollable laughter. The tears, that is my favorite emotion. When I started going into what are the emotions and how many do we need to understand and how many do we need to feel, that was the only one out of eight. As much as I want to live in that piece of the pie, there are seven more to be aware of and to learn about.

Have you done much studying on emotional intelligence?

I have. It seems like Emotional Intelligence the book I read. When we hit one of those hiccups in a marriage, we started talking through a counselor about diving down and seeing how you communicate. Even when I was ready to stab my husband with a knife, smack in the heart, I would laugh. She pointed that out to me and she was like, “You’re angry but it’s coming out as laughter. He hears you laugh and he thinks you’re sarcastic.” Just that little tweak in my mindset and understanding how I felt versus his perception changed the game.

That’s powerful for my audience because all too often we are not honest in expressing our emotions. It’s not a conscious thing. It’s a subconscious thing. It’s important to have your emotions in tune with your reactions and all that because our spouses or people, co-workers can misread those things very easily. I also have a friend that whenever she tells a story and it can be the most heart moving the tragic story. She giggles through the whole thing and like you, it was pointed out to her and she never realizes she had done it. Once she’d started realizing that, it actually put her back in tune with her feelings. She got a better understanding of hers because she was masking it with that giggle. We would leave places where we were in groups of people and they’d go, “She’s weird. She’s talking about her dad passing and she’s giggling.” I said, “That’s a reaction she’s having. She’s not weird. It’s the reaction she is showing too as how she’s masking her hurt.”

When my father passed away, I used to feel guilty. I only cried twice in three months, not even at the funeral. Am I that coldhearted? Once you start saying, “Is this normal?” I realized I was on the course. What is our medical plan? What’s the plan with my mom? What’s the plan with the rest of the family? I’m the, “Let’s make the game plan and let’s go.” I never once sat back to thought and said, “He might not make it through this.” Even if he does, I’m a doer. I’m like, “What’s the list? What’s got to get done? Let’s make it happen.”

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I’m a doer. Tell me if this resonates with you. I think your background I read somewhere is in financial planning and all that.

By trade, I’m a CPA. Who would have thought?

When you’re a CPA, you have a methodical plan of action that goes through. It’s like having QuickBooks in your head. You go, this, this and this. Engineers are the same way. Engineers have the same thing. When I was so young, I had to live in the moment and I had to make every moment matter to me. By doing that, I’ve learned. I talk about this often too. In Vietnam, we never knew what was coming next. As a Marine in combat, you never know what’s going to hit you next. You have to live in the moment because you have to focus on that moment. In that second, you have to encompass everything that’s around you.

When I was eighteen in Vietnam, I learned that it was important to be aware of your surroundings, your feelings, and your emotions. I’m a crier. I can watch a Lassie movie and cry. I can watch a Budweiser commercial, see those Clydesdales with a dog and I’m bawling like a baby. My wife would not go to the movies with me because I would be the only one in the movie theater crying. Our friends would always say, “There’s Art crying again.” It was sometimes embarrassing, but for me, can you imagine being a Marine, in combat, tears running down your face and you’re sobbing. It’s how I release and process. It’s part of my process gear.

The only thing when people judge you, that then having to admit that they were in a fearful situation by looking at someone else’s tears.

To me, I’ve never been ashamed of it. It never bothered me. It’s just part of me. I learned to accept that early. I played baseball. I was a catcher. We’d win a game and I’d be crying. We’d lose a game I’d be crying. It’s more tears than it is actually sobbing. People ask me all the time, “Are you an empath?” I feel things, it brings a flood of emotion to me. I always say, “No, I don’t think I’m an empath.” I interviewed a lady and she said, “I think you are.”

Are you going to do more research on it to find out?

No, I’m just going to be me. That’s been my philosophy all my life. Not everybody’s going to like me or love me. I don’t want to be liked or loved by everybody, but I do want to be able to teach everybody their uniqueness, their beauty and that they have something to give every single person. I don’t care if I’m in New York City, in Harlem or I’m in Beverly Hills amongst movie stars. Each and every one of us has something that we can give, share with this world and teach. That is what brings me joy and happiness to be able to facilitate it, to be able to act with it. I sense that you do too.

That’s incredibly beautiful and it is because we’ve been there. We get so caught up in life that we stopped seeing what our superpowers than what our true gifts are. Sometimes it’s nice to have those people that can just point it out to you. Many of us are starved for good conversation and attention. It’s imperative. It’s like lifeblood.

SE 33 | Shine Your BrightWhen I spoke at Harvard, one of the things I talked about was the two things that every human being requires. That’s love and validation. We have to be loved and feel loved, and be able to love. We have to be able to validate not only ourselves first, but we can then validate others in what they’re doing. The necessities that we have as humans. When we learn that and start living it and doing that, our world would change. All the political thing that’s going on, all the fighting and everything else, it absolutely produces nothing. There’s no good ever going to come out of all this.

I try not to engage with it and I try to stay my course. Someone told us once. They’re like, “If it’s big enough and big enough in the news, you’ll hear about it so you don’t need to go seek it out.”

One of my favorite books growing up was The Secret Life of Walter Mitty. I love to dream and I love to fantasize. I would love to go to Congress or something and go in and be able to have a Walter Mitty moment and change the whole culture of Washington, DC.

You never know. It could happen.

If you don’t believe it can, it never will, but if you believe it can, it could.

It shows up. It’s one of the most amazing things.

Have you had those what if moments in life?

Do you mean looking toward the future? What if this happened?

No, I call what if moments or things that we just, “What if I had done this,” or “What if I had done that? Would this be different? Would that be different?” Some people spend a lot of time on what if moments and they have absolutely no bearing on our life.

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That does, I don’t. I’ve been very fortunate. I don’t even play in regret. There is one time in my entire life that I can remember that I regret and I was fifteen. I will cut myself a little slack.

I have a sneaking suspicion that you and I are very similar. I think if we explored it further that you also live in the moment a lot. You’re focused on the moment more because if you look back and regret, there’s no purpose in it. If you look forward and wish you’re not getting it done, you’re a doer. You’re in this moment about doing this moment and that’s what matters.

I do believe to where we even touched on some of the, “If you see it, it could happen.” I believe that if you start putting things out and say, “I want this, I can feel it coming,” that it can come into your life too.

Do you know that’s why our expectations are so important? When we start expecting, we’re putting out energy waves. There are researches that are going at numerous universities like Harvard and the University of Texas and Georgia. There are so many universities that are doing research into how this energy actually moves our lives. I’m my next book if I can find the time to write is going to be Quantum Expectations. When I spoke at Harvard, one of the things that resonated with some brilliant people there, I had a professor tell me, “One of the incredible things about you is I have done research on people that have these thoughts and they come true, but you’re the first person I’ve ever seen the complete cycle that you live.” On August 26th, I’ll be 72-years-old. I have lived the complete cycle. From nine-years-old putting out this vibration on top of the hilltop and asking God what was going to become of me and having it come full circle through all the cycles of life. I tell people to be patient. I’m coming to the fruition.

At 63-years-old after my wife passed, I had to go out and start over in my life. I reinvented myself or transition into a new phase of life. Most people would have said, “Forget it. I’m 60 something. I’ll collect my retirement and I’ll live my life the way it is.” I couldn’t do that. When I got up off of the ground in my ranch and had asked God what was going to happen to me again, I heard that voice say, “I’ve given you all the tools, use them.” I took it to heart. Use what you’ve given me. I’m going to keep going until they’d burned me up or whatever they’re going to do. I don’t care what happens to me after I die. Until that minute, I am going to live this life the way that I believed that I was intended to live it.

It’s a gift. The view at rolling onto 72-years-old, there’s still more that life has to offer you and be in the present state drinking in.

When my wife was passing away, the doctors told me she’s going to have a lucid moment because she had chemo brain. The chemotherapy had destroyed her, which she had a lucid moment and she yelled, “Art.” I ran across the house into the bedroom and she said, “Sit down on the bed.” Just as lucidly as she could say, she said, “I want to thank you for all the years that you’ve taken care of me and provided so well. I want to release you from your marriage vows so you can go find somebody else to love as much as you have loved me.” I said to her, “No, I can’t do that because you’ve been it for me.”

She said to me, “No, you’ve got to do this.” When she passed away, I dishonored her by going to that place of drinking and all that. When I found Beverly, because she had uttered those words to me, it released me to love someone else as much as I had loved her. I married a woman who was 53-years-old. She never had children, she had never been married, was self-sufficient and she has been the biggest blessing in my life. She is such a woman of encouragement and understanding. I believe and she believes that she is a gift from Vicki above.

What a testimony, because it happens to all of us. We go through the trenches. Hearing stories like that does put that light, that hope on the people that are in the trenches.

SE 33 | Shine Your BrightThere is shine your bright out there. It’s when you give up and give up hope, that when it kills you. That’s when it puts you in that spot where you don’t want to be. I see it with Vietnam veterans. It’s a choice we make. We can either live happily or we can put up with the pain, live through the pain and come out on the bright side of it or not.

It’s always good to share, especially when people do go through some of the experiences in life and not knowing where the turn and start are coming out of those experiences. It’s good to know that you have resources of people you can talk to.

Experiences are meant to be teaching lessons of our life. Too many times and too often, people look at this is, “What happened to me? Why did this happen to me?” I understand that everybody doesn’t believe in God the way I do. Time has taught me, but no matter how you perceive it, these are all meant to teach us something. When you’re taught like that, there is no failure. You can never have a failure when you look at everything as a learning experience because inherently learning experiences are treasures and that’s how we grow. We take each one of those and become better. That’s why I’m so good at 72. What else do you want to tell us about, Heather Breedlove?

I think it’s been an amazing conversation. Thank you for sharing this time with me.

It’s my pleasure. I’ll do it again and again. Can you fill us in and tell us what you’ve got coming up? I know you’ve filled us in some of it. Tell us a little bit about Tommy. I know Tommy’s a speaker.

We both went to accounting by trade and he made it the same thing. We were both very incredibly successful in our careers. The first time he sat down at a shareholder meeting as an equity partner in an accounting firm, he just said, “It’s not for me. I can’t choose to let people be a commodity and I need to have more emotion in business.” That’s our Jerry Maguire joke. He Jerry Maguire it and walked away. He started to choose goodness and is a place for choice, helping those people who do want to make a choice, and they can’t necessarily see or navigate from point A to point B.

Having that support there where we can be our full selves, we can have it all. We could have our businesses. We could still have our financial security and we could still have our purpose in life. He does speaking and coaching in that arena. We are starting to merge a little bit into the marriage arena and it’s so exciting that our lives again have had another reiteration of the Breed Loves as we call it. We’re very blessed to be where we are. I do have a website ShineYourBright.com. You can get to me through that and I’d love to hear from anyone who wants to reach out.

I’m going to encourage the audience to reach out to Heather and Tommy if you need to so you can gain some clarity and knowledge that will start to transform your life. They’re super people and they care and it’s a blessing. I’m so thankful that we got to spend this time together. Another kindred spirit in my spirit bag. You’re special. I felt connected to you and enjoyed it. With that being said, everybody knows where they can get ahold of me. It’s from ExpectationTherapy.com. Expectation Academy is my online course. Heather, it’s been a pleasure. I can’t wait until we do this again. Thank you.

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About Heather Breedlove

SE 33 | Shine Your BrightAs the author of Shine Your Bright, Chief Financial Officer of Keyston Bros, and Co-Founder of Choose Goodness, Heather’s success has grown rapidly. Like so many of us, she grew up striving for the perfect life – a fairy tale romance and a successful career. While working her way through the checklist of accomplishments, she found a disconnect.

The person she was at home was not the person she was at work, nor even the person she IS. She was playing the role rather than participating in life. She has found excitement in bringing her full self to every aspect of her life. Through her book, Shine Your Bright, she hopes you find the peace and courage to do the same.
All too often life throws us curve balls or we end up on autopilot ready to implode. We find ourselves burying our feelings just to keep everyone and everything around us afloat. Is it time to start to release some of the pressure and get to know yourself again? With Heather’s help, you can start to remember the real you and unlock the emotions you have held too closely all this time.

 

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