“We are only promised today… So take today and make today the most incredible day.” –Lorraine Hoving
“It is never , ever too late until it is.” You may be living in your sunset years, but as long as the sun is up, your life is going to be as exciting and transformational as in your youthful vigor. Today’s episode can attest to your ability to make that change happen, to inspire others and live a happy, satisfying journey. Don’t live with the regrets of yesterday because you wasted today being hopeless for tomorrow.
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01:29 The Little Girl
08:27 Taking Responsibility
19:47 Living Life at the Good, Old Years
27:29 Live To The Fullest
32:35 Let Yourself Grieve
36:32 Making an Impact for the Last 1/3s
39:36 Live Today, Hope for Tomorrow
“We will never, ever, ever get over some of our issues or things that we’re trying to work through if we constantly blame other people.” –Lorraine Hoving
“I never felt worthy of losing weight. Now I know I am as worthy as anybody else on this earth. And if you’re out there listening, you too are worthy. You are worthy of your health.” –Lorraine Hoving
“There’s a new found freedom in what you can do and the energy you feel. It is amazing for anybody out there. It is well worth taking care of yourself.” –Lorraine Hoving
“You don’t have to stop. There is no time like the present to start living.” –Art Costello
“We have so much wisdom to give to the world. This is not the time to shrink at 50 or 60. This is a time to come out and impact the world because the world needs us.” –Lorraine Hoving
“It is never ever too late until it is. So it’s not too late now, today to make a difference.” –Lorraine Hoving
“You have to let yourself grieve and go through that process. But you have to also not dwell in it because it will eat you up.” –Art Costello
“We are only promised today… So take today and make today the most incredible day that you can for others by reaching out to other people, living today, being present with your family and friends instead of thinking about work or thinking of this. Be present with those that you love.” –Lorraine Hoving
“There’s hope for those that need hope in conquering their weight problem.” –Lorraine Hoving
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Art Costello: Welcome to the show of Epiphany Podcast. Today I am honored to have Lorraine Hoving as a guest. Lorraine is the speaker radio show host and a lover of life. She has an incredible journey that she’s gone and we’re gonna talk about it, and I just love her grit. Lorraine’s got a lot of grit, and she knows how to handle stuff. So we’ll just get into her story, let her tell her story, and we’ll move through it and talk about some of the things she’s going on in her life right now, that have been challenges, because I know a lot of my listeners are some challenges, and she’s gonna tell us how she’s dealing with one. Anyway, welcome Lorraine, I love having you.
Lorraine Hoving: You know what, thank you Art, I am so excited to be here. I’ve been looking forward to this.
Art Costello: Well, you know, as before I’ve done your show, and we had a great time, and I think we’re gonna do that again and help a lot of people with a lot of different issues that they struggle with in their lives.–
Lorraine Hoving: Absolutely.
Art Costello: –And that’s what it is about. So tell us your story. Tell us what Lorraine has gone through, even go back as far as a little girl, where you grew up and how you became Lorraine Hoving.
Lorraine Hoving: Oh, right, wow. I am so excited to be here as I’ve said. Let me tell you a little bit about where I grew up. I grew up in northern British Columbia, so I am a Canadian. I grew up in a family where we had seven children. Well, my mom had seven children, so at one time, and not all at– (laughs) what happen is, when I was five years old, I had a little brother and he was a year old, and I didn’t realize that he was actually suffering from heart issue, and they were waiting until he was exactly a year to send him to a Vancouver hospital because we are very remotely up in a, near Prince Rupert. And so anyways, I didn’t realize he had a heart defect. And so I loved to wake up in the morning and like I said, he was five years old and he was about a year when this happened. But I get up and I play with him in the morning. I adored him, he was in his little crib. And anyways, just before his first birthday, I went into the crib to play with him like I did every single day and he was gone. And I was told as a little five year old that he would never come back again. And I never learned, probably 10, or 15 years later what exactly had happened to him. And it was a heart defect and they had to wait until he was a certain way.–
Art Costello: Ehmm.
Lorraine Hoving: –So anyways, that was my first experience with a death that was rather quick and overnight happy, happy child. I was, my mom said I was born from the womb laughing and I’ve just, I’ve always had a very positive, fun lobbying attitude towards life. And so, as a child I had such great times, and then I was very, very close to my dad, and my dad and I, this is how I can explain it. As we kind of spoke the same alliance, woke up, hardly wait to my dad, and I went to bed, and my dad, and eating every night, we had a routine where we ate ice cream before we went to bed. So when I turned, wow, I remember this vividly, my relationship with dad was just wonderful. My mom was busy with all the children, so warm, loving, kind and my world was wrapped around him. So I think it was just the latter part of when I was 11 years old, that door rang and I love to have company. So I just ran go to the door, and I opened the door and saw a priest and a police officer, and I knew my life would change forever cause instantly you know that your dad is never coming back again. So at that point I began to pull in that happy little girl. My little girl began to disappear is how I explain it. And I had an older brother that had perhaps, I’m not sure now because he has passed on also, was jealous of the relationship. So he began to think it was his duty to tease me and he used to call me fatty fatty two by four and perhaps at this time I was maybe 10 pounds overweight. Every cookie I ate, every crumb, everything I put in my mouth, he would tease, and he would tease about anything that was just as nature. And I, now I look back and it was, he was really verbally abusive, but he didn’t know better at that time either. So anyways, what started to happen is the little girl, the happy little girl began to think that she needed to hide. And so I began to hide, and how I got my comfort art was through food. So I began to sneak food into my room, and at night I always snuck ice cream in and I can see the connection. I figured it out years later because I was missing my daddy. And that was our routine. So I’d sneak down the bowl at night when my brother wasn’t listening. I remember it like yesterday, putting the ball under the bed until the morning. I could sneak up and not crew. I would be very careful as I walked up the stairs, because I didn’t want to wake my brother and I’d wash the ball out. So that began a journey of hiding, and a journey of being obsessed a little bit with food, and that food became my comfort. That’s the beginning of my story (laughs).
Art Costello: I’m thinking back, and thinking of my own life and you know, we deal with things with, maybe sometimes the easiest thing there is to grab onto is food, and I think takes a lot of maturity to realize that. I mean we do realize that when we get older, but when we’re children and we’re trying to hide that, I mean, I see this a lot with the kids that are abused in different ways, or have extreme loss and all that. So when we find that comfort in food, it often sticks with us for a lifetime until we can recognize it and change it, and sometimes even when we do recognize and change it, it is extremely difficult to change that behavior.–
Lorraine Hoving: Right.
Art Costello: –I want to hear the rest of your story because I know it has a (laughs), I know that it has an ending that is very, very beautiful in a way and a very, a testament to who you are
Lorraine Hoving: And the ending actually Art, is just the beginning of life opening up for me. So what ended up happening, I ended up reaching my highest of 275 pounds, and that’s on a five foot one small petite frame. And I’m married my husband probably when I was about 15 or 20 pounds overweight, and I said to my husband: “The first Christmas I’m gonna have all my weight off.” So the first Christmas came, and I have found that I enjoyed cooking for him and love, he love his desserts, and so he had a dessert every night. But consequently that first Christmas, instead of having the 15 extra pounds on, I probably had 20, 15, 20 extra on. And so as I said, I rose to my highest point in my life of 275, so I have a show called, Never Too Late Ever. And I think I realized when I turned about 60, it was a sobering thought because I woke up crying on my birthday, because I suddenly realized that if I lived to be 90, if I was even blessed to be 90, two thirds of my life was over TWO THIRDS, and all these promises and all these goals I have made throughout the years. Just left there, all those New Year’s resolutions, all those Mondays, okay, I’m gonna do it Monday. Okay, I’m gonna to do it Tuesday, okay I’m gonna start, left there. They were just a heap of empty promises and I realized, I couldn’t blame my brother. I couldn’t blame the abandonment I felt from losing my dad, losing my younger brother, I couldn’t blame anybody. You know what, I realized I had to take responsibility for me, and this is the truth out there. People that are listening, we will never, ever, ever get over some of our issues, or things that we’re trying to work through. If we constantly blame other people. I finally looked in the mirror and this is what I said to myself, Art, which was painful. I looked at myself because I had gone to the Internet and I’ve always thought, I would ignore that I was overweight. I wouldn’t look at mirrors, I wouldn’t look. I would just ignore it even though I was in a lot of photos and could see it. I looked up on the internet, and I looked it up and I went: “Lorraine, you are morbidly obese.” I knew that before I went there. So I went home and I looked in the mirror and I said: “Lorraine, you are morbidly obese. What are you going to do about it?” Because all my life, I blamed others. My past, my circumstances, Oh, I used to think, oh, I’m the only one that cannot lose weight. I’m tended to be fat the rest of my life. I had lost weight, gained it, lost weight, gained that back, but until I finally took responsibility for some of what was wrong on the inside, there was never lasting change on the outside. So I began to do work on the inside, like reading books. I went to a personal development class where they definitely go into your past and you learn how to forgive, which was a lot of hard work. And I began from the inside taking responsibility, and I began to lose weight that permanently that will never come on again. I know for a 100% sure, cause I did the work on the inside which needed doing.“We will never, ever, ever get over some of our issues or things that we're trying to work through if we constantly blame other people.” –Lorraine Hoving Click To Tweet
Art Costello: That’s tremendous. I mean cause when you look at our society and the obesity that’s coming now, and one of my wonder, one of the things I was wondering when I was hearing your story, we know what the cause of your morbid obesity was. The kids today coming up are dealing with it, because I think more of the types of food that we’re eating is causing morbid obesity. And I’m wondering if it’s gonna be harder for them to realize, you know, how to get rid of that or will they have the same, you know this is just me wondering, you know, will they have to go through the same process that you went through to rid themselves of that? You know what I mean? Cause we were so high in sugar intake, and so high in carbohydrate intake and all that stuff right now through our diets.
Lorraine Hoving: Yeah, and I, I agree with you. I think though that a person that is obsessed with food and uses it for comfort or numbing, that’s what I used it, okay. Then I would numb my feelings with food, then there’s a problem, then there’s an issue. Some people that have 15, 20, 30 pounds lose weight, they might be just eating the wrong foods.–
Art Costello: Ehmm.
Lorraine Hoving: –But when I was obsessed with numbing my feelings, then there was an issue from within, if you know what I mean.
Art Costello: –Oh, I do, I do.
Lorraine Hoving: –And somebody that’s morbidly obese obviously has something that they’re numbing. Just in the same way an alcoholic might numb his feelings.
Art Costello: –Ehmm.
Lorraine Hoving: –I was numbing the feeling that I felt abandonment, and numbing that I didn’t feel worthy. I never felt worthy of losing weight. Now I know, I am as worthy as anybody else on this earth. And if you’re out there listening, you two are worthy. You are worthy of your heath, we are all equal.–“I never felt worthy of losing weight. Now I know I am as worthy as anybody else on this earth. And if you're out there listening, you too are worthy. You are worthy of your health.” –Lorraine Hoving Click To Tweet
Art Costello: (laughs).
Lorraine Hoving: –We’re all created equal, which is wonderful because I get to embrace health in the same way you do, Art.
Art Costello: –Ehmm.
Lorraine Hoving: –And in the same way anybody else does. And so, I think that being morbidly obese is something that, there’s a root problem. And I had to get to the root problem and that was, that I didn’t believe that I was worthy. I’ll tell you an example, because I had mentioned that I lost my little girl. And so I want your listeners to think about, when you were a little girl, or a little boy. There are sometimes things that happen to us that rob us of the little girl, and maybe it’s a traumatic experience. Mine the death, the sudden deaths of losing two people close to me. So if you go back there, I go back and I see a happy little girl. I like to look at my photos, and I was just joyous and suddenly my world crashed in, and I pulled in and I lost the little girl. Well, this is an example. I am now 65, and at 63 after I lived, lost 120 pounds. And I have about 25 more to lose, which is still a struggle (laughs), and I had gone down to a retreat down in southern California, and the night before I had seen a trampoline and I thought, oh my gosh, I am gonna wake up really early in the morning.
Art Costello: –(laughs).
Lorraine Hoving: –Did you see, if you are obese most of your life, you are not jumping on a trampoline. I’ve tried to rebound the little ones, but everything jiggles.
Art Costello: –(laughs).
Lorraine Hoving: –so you’re not bouncing on trampoline. So I thought I’m gonna sneak and try it and see if I can do it. Well, I snuck out early in the morning and I had two of my early morning friends already there, and they asked me: “What I was doing?” I said: “I’m gonna try jumping on the trampoline.” Well, I got on and I couldn’t get my balance, because I wasn’t used to it. So they jump on the trampoline, they grabbed my hands and we began to go higher, and higher, and higher, and I remember screaming higher and higher like I was a little girl on the swing. When my brothers used to swing me up and down, I’d go higher, higher. I went so high that all of a sudden I collapsed onto the trampoline pad and began crying.
Art Costello: –Hmm.
Lorraine Hoving: –The most uncontrollable cries from the deepest part of my soul that I’d ever experienced, literally, and I realized in that moment, somewhere when I was jumping up there, it was as if I got my little girl back.
Art Costello: –(laughs).
Lorraine Hoving: –Disappeared, but suddenly she was free, and it was an amazing experience.
Art Costello: It’s a beautiful thing. Let me ask you this question. What other things did you do that you never thought you would ever do again? I have one in mind. Did you, when you put on new clothing, when you went out, we had to buy a new wardrobe. Did you find that rewarding? Did you find that–
Lorraine Hoving: Oh, there are listeners out there that may be overweight and they can relate to this? I would go in when I was overweight, and I’d go into the changing room, and I would just lie because I bring things in and they nothing, nothing would look good, and if it looks good, it wasn’t size for me. Well, I can go there now and I’m so excited. Infact, even on my Facebook page, one day I was getting my nails done, and I looked down, and I have what you call the gap between your legs.–
Art Costello: (laughs).
Lorraine Hoving: –I never had a gap between, and I can take a photo, I’m not sure what the nail is. Sure, she was wondering why I kept taking photos, the gap, the leg gap.
Art Costello: –(laughs).
Lorraine Hoving: –But there’s little things like that, and then I hadn’t tried water skiing for 40 years, and I taught the summer, I did not make it up. I have to develop my strength muscles, but I’ve been trying things like that, because there’s a new found freedom in what you can do in the energy you feel. It is amazing for anybody out there. It is well worth taking, taking care of yourself. You have to literally take yourself on and go for it, but it’s well worth.“There's a new found freedom in what you can do and the energy you feel. It is amazing for anybody out there. It is well worth taking care of yourself.” –Lorraine Hoving Click To Tweet
Art Costello: Do you know what I love about this, is that at 60, you started learning how to live life and how to really enjoy it. And you know, a lot of people put things off, put things off like losing weight, or like getting rid of a deadbeat husband. I mean there’s, there’s tons of things that really affect people and how they live their life. And I just commend you on doing that. There’s not, I mean, I’m 72 (laughs)–
Lorraine Hoving: (laughs)You’re amazing.
Art Costello: –And I’m not sure that I could still water ski, or that I would have even tried it at 65. I probably would have, because I’m kind of a nutcase on this stuff. But you know, I’ll try anything. But for a woman, particularly men, men, I think we are granted stronger muscles, all these different little things. But for a woman to be 65 and trying water skiing, I just love it, Lorraine. I think that everybody should do that. Do you know, and it brings me to something that’s really near and dear to my heart, is that so many people when they retire at 65, or 60, or whenever they’re, they feel that they have the need to retire. They put out to pasture, they feel that they, all they can do is sit at home and watch TV, or read a book, or anything like that. They stopped living life. And you know, I had a young friend who was a bull rider in the community we are, and he was at the National Finals Rodeo in 1992 and lost his life, a bull stepped on his head. And one of the things that his mom said, and that always has resonated with me, that Brent died doing what he loved, and he wouldn’t have wanted it any other way. He wouldn’t want you to mourn for him, and all that because he lived his life doing what he wanted. He had a passion for bull riding. You have to have a passion for bull riding to do that. And because so many young men have become maimed, and injured, and lost their lives riding bulls. It’s a dangerous, dangerous sport, but yet it says something about the character of the person that does it. They’re willing to risk it all. People who walk high wires, people that do all these sports that are really challenging, their living life. And so many people, when they become older think that they’re supposed to be put out to pasture. And that is the furthest thing from truth. We have so many talents that we could be doing and using, and helping young people live the lives that they’re intended to live, and your prime example of that. You know, not only for women that are obese, but for young girls coming up, and knowing that when you turn 60 and 65 years from now, ladies, you don’t have to stop. There is no time like the present to start living because“You don't have to stop. There is no time like the present to start living.” –Art Costello Click To Tweet
Lorraine Hoving: –Right, absolutely, yeah.
Art Costello: –if you live the next 10 years to the fullest, you will be so happy, and it beams on your face. I wish people could see how how you smile and really enjoy it.
Lorraine Hoving: Right, I’d like to say too, that sometimes when we start, when about 50, we begin to feel invisible for some reason in our society. And then if you’re overweight, you even become more invisible. And the thing is, we’re not invisible. So we buy into that lie and we start shrinking. We need to do the other thing because, what has happened is we’ve had life’s experiences. We have so much wisdom to give to the world. This is not the time to shrink at 50 or 60, this is a time to come out and impact the world, because the world needs us.“We have so much wisdom to give to the world. This is not the time to shrink at 50 or 60. This is a time to come out and impact the world because the world needs us.” –Lorraine Hoving Click To Tweet
Art Costello: Yep, and you see what the reason that you call the shrinkage at 50, if you’ll look at all the advertisements on TV or many of them, they’re all geared to the young slim people being active and everything, and there is no promotion for people. It’s changing I think. I think we’re seeing a little bit more of it now with some of the, they advertise them, but advertisers have their target market and we’re not it (laughs), and we’re not it.
Lorraine Hoving: We got a lot to give the world and a lot to say, and so I’m not taking that on. I’m not taking that on, because I have met so many wonderful people, now that I’ve been getting my message out, and like I said, my radio is called, the show is called, Never Too Late Ever. Well in the last month or two I’ve been adding, It is never ever too late until it is. So it’s not too late now, today to make a difference. But it may be too late because as Art knows, only 10 days ago, I lost my beloved older sister, suddenly again. And she went into the doctor on a Friday night, not feeling well. And by Sunday she was gone with acute leukemia. She had signs like a rash and feeling tired, but nothing out of the normal that we wouldn’t think, well, just get more rest, or you know. So I was reminded because it was hard on me again, because I’ve had a lot of sudden deaths where everything’s going good and then something rips it. In fact, when I was a child after my daddy died, I used to think that I can’t be really happy because something’s going to happen, cause I was really happy with my daddy. So even when my husband, maybe somebody can relate to this, I don’t know why I feel like sharing this, but when I first married my husband, if he was even 15 minutes late, I was sure he, something had happened. He had died, and I would try and guard myself from being too happy, because every time I got to happy Raymond died, my Daddy died. And I just felt, somehow in my little kid’s brain, it was related to if I was happy, something bad was gonna happen. So when Pauline died, it was heartbreaking. But somehow in this time in my life, I’ve been able to handle it much better because I know for one thing that she is in a better place. I believe that I will see her again. And the two words that my mantra through the funeral were hope, because I hope and trust that she’s in a different place. And the other one was trust. So if I trust in God, or some people say the universe, if I trust that things happen for a reason, who am I to say no, you cannot go, you know, to hang onto that would be selfish. So she is in a better place. She is free, and heartbreaking cause us we sister’s, we’re looking forward to riding into the sunset with many memories, but somehow through this, and I think it’s because I’ve done the work on myself too. I realize that this is something happens, and I believe she’s like the little wisdom angel on my shoulder saying: “Keep working, keep working.” Because she never ever, ever stopped living her life. So–“It is never ever too late until it is. So it's not too late now, today to make a difference.” –Lorraine Hoving Click To Tweet
Art Costello: That’s a great tribute. You know, I write a lot about, how do you expect the unexpected, you know what, mine comes out of Vietnam, I think when I was in Vietnam. And you can, you know, veterans have a lot of hard combat, veterans have a lot of difficulty in understanding why, you know, we have survivor’s guilt, you know, we come home, why we survived it and other guys didn’t, could never figure it out, in really we’re not supposed to.
Lorraine Hoving: –Right.
Art Costello: –We’re really not supposed to know, it just happens. And what I’ve learned from it, that we are supposed to honor all those who have preceded us in death, by living our lives to the greatest extent that we can. And from the time when I come home, I was 18 gonna turn 19, when I came home from Vietnam. I promised myself that I was always gonna live life to the fullest and enjoy it.
Lorraine Hoving: –Ehmm.
Art Costello: –That I wasn’t gonna let, everything became a learning experience. We’re supposed to learn from all of these things. You know, the death of my wife, you know, to ovarian cancer in 2006 was a blow to me. Like it knocked me off my feet.
Lorraine Hoving: –Yeah.
Art Costello: –But I learned that there was a purpose in it, and you know, the gifts that she left me with, you know, have led me to a better life. You know, I’m now remarried and I have a wonderful wife that is just a real blessing, and I believe that her hands were all over Beverley’s, and I met her, and she had never been married. She was 53 years old when we met and hadn’t, you know, was waiting for her prince charming.
Lorraine Hoving: –(laughs).
Art Costello: –And luckily I can say, I was it, you know, and when you think about that, you know, I mean, she is very independent woman and didn’t need a man to take care of her financially or anything like that. She’s very educated, she’s a Nurse Anesthetist, has a great job, didn’t need me. You know, it’s really that she wanted me. It’s probably that, one of the first times in my life where I felt wanted.
Lorraine Hoving: –Ooohh.
Art Costello: –Because when I was a kid, you know, being abandoned and all that, I had those issues, abandonment, not feeling wanted. And you know, my parents were very, even though they didn’t abandon us physically, they did in a way, then and his physically, but they didn’t, they didn’t give us support.
Lorraine Hoving: –Yeah, and emotionally.
Art Costello: –Yeah, emotionally were abandoned.
Lorraine Hoving: –Yeah.
Art Costello: –And I can remember having some of the same feelings you did, worrying about when my mom was gonna come home because she would go out drinking and stuff like that, and leave us alone, and wake up the next morning and she wasn’t there. And just panicking going through you. But you know, all of it happened for a reason.
Lorraine Hoving: –Right.
Art Costello: –And it’s led us to where we are today, all right.
Lorraine Hoving: –Right.
Art Costello: –You and I are where we are today, because of everything that has happened to us. We haven’t let it feed us.
Lorraine Hoving: –Right.
Art Costello: –We didn’t go into that rabbit hole, and try to cover ourselves up. We’ve taken the challenge, and we’ve overcome it. That’s what is important.
Lorraine Hoving: Right, I think that, in saying that I did it sometimes cover up, and that would be through the issues with the food. I tried to numb it and once I dealt with that, I have been free as a bird in the sky, I can feel. And I think that in life, there’s an expression when we go through the things, we can either become bitter or better, and I choose to be better. I choose not to be the victim because none of us are. We allow ourselves to be a victim, but we don’t need to remain there. And so I think I did cover a lot of that up for many years, but there is no more covering up, because we have got this day, and we want whatever God gives us to live and change people’s life. Everywhere we go, if we treat people with kind, this is the thing I said to some people the other day, this is the day we have, so why not treat people with love and kindness? We don’t know when we go out outside, go to a coffee shop, we don’t know if that Barista, that is her last day on earth, so let’s treat each other with kindness, gentleness, forget the anger that we’re all caught up and I’m being snappy. All those are just little things that mean nothing. It’s about living and vibrantly making an impact on others.
Art Costello: When people focus on the little things and they get angry about them, and they hang on to them, they’re really hurting themselves more than they’re hurting the people they think they’re hurting.
Lorraine Hoving: Yes, absolutely.
Art Costello: And it just, it stymies your growth, but more than that, it really steals your happiness. Your happiness goes away, and you become that bitter person about things. And you know, I just want the audience to know that there is a thing called grieving, and there is a process of grieving, and you have to let yourself grieve and go through that process. But you have to also not dwell in it.–
Lorraine Hoving: Right.
Art Costello: –Because it will eat you up.“You have to let yourself grieve and go through that process. But you have to also not dwell in it because it will eat you up.” –Art Costello Click To Tweet
Lorraine Hoving: –Right.
Art Costello: –And we all grieve different lengths, you know? I mean, I’ve heard of people within six, seven months going to be able to go through the complete cycle of grieving. I’ve heard other people take three years, like it did me. I’ve heard people say that statistically it takes about five years to really go through the whole grieving process. So it’s okay to grieve and do it in your own way.
Lorraine Hoving: –Absolutely.
Art Costello: –But it is, you know, like anything else that we do emotionally, it is well worth it. The journey is well worth it.
Lorraine Hoving: –Right.
Art Costello: –To go to that process, because when you come out of it, you’re going to be a better person. You’re gonna be stronger, you’re gonna be smarter and it’s going to teach you a lot of lessons.
Lorraine Hoving: Yeah. And I think grieving you have to go through, if you hide it again, then you’re hiding those feelings, like I was hiding and numbing. So you’re trying to numb those feelings. I went like a baby at my sister’s funeral and grave side, and it felt good. It felt like I was being cleanse, and I will miss her the rest of my life. And so you have to acknowledge that you’re sad. You have to acknowledge that it hurts, that it’s painful, that you’re gonna miss that person. But it’s picking yourself up and going like Art says, there’s a purpose for everything. And I believe there’s a purpose. And has it made me stronger as a person today to want to impact the world, absolutely. Cause my sister, person after person stood up and said how her wisdom, how her mentoring had helped them, and it made me realize that she gave everything for other people. So that’s my example. But yes, you need time to grieve. And that is part of the whole process.
Art Costello: I think that, that’s a real, a great tribute to your sister because somebody that gives, you know, a lot of times they’re really don’t. It’s hard for them to accept back. Is she liked that?
Lorraine Hoving: A little bit, yeah, yeah.
Art Costello: I’d rather give than receive. See, I’m a giver. I wanna give, give, give.
Lorraine Hoving: Yeah, she was like, she loves people to come to her, to ask if they asked her advice because she’s got a lot of wisdom, so she reveled in that.–
Art Costello: It’s great, yeah. So I think when you’re that type of person, it’s taken me quite a bit of time in my life to be able to receive things graciously. Because I used to be pretty blunt about not wanting people to do things for me. But I’ve learned and that’s a part of the growth process.
Lorraine Hoving: –Right.
Art Costello: –So what’s coming up for you? What’s new on the Horizon?
Lorraine Hoving: Well, what’s new on the Horizon is in the middle of a move back to Canada. I’ve been in the United States for about 41 years. We’re up in Washington state, just over the border and we’re moving the area of Victoria. Have you been there? Victoria, Canada on the island?
Art Costello: I haven’t been on the island.
Lorraine Hoving: Oh, it’s beautiful. It’s absolutely gorgeous. And my husband’s a yacht broker, so he’s going to live just 90 seconds from where he’s gonna work. I’m in real estate and I will continue a little bit, but I’m really expanding on my radio show and my speaking engagements.–
Art Costello: Great.
Lorraine Hoving: –That’s what I’m really excited about is, making an impact on this last one third of my life, because I’m gonna live to be over 90, I know it (laughs).
Art Costello: I always joke about living in 132 (laughs).
Lorraine Hoving: Yeah, I think that too. I met so many vibrant people, older people that it just, it lights me on fire when I am out there running, or jogging, or walk 10 mile. I met a lady the other day, actually it’s about, she’s down to about five miles a day now. She only walks five miles, but she’s 94.–
Art Costello: Oh wow. Well, I’m one of the guys that your husband dislikes.–
Lorraine Hoving: Oh, why is that? (laughs).
Art Costello: –Just mentioned the word power boats (laughs). The yacht guys don’t like us power boat guys. I’ve always loved big old power boats, but I had one in the past, but I don’t have one now, so yeah.
Lorraine Hoving: Yeah, we love it out on the water. It’s just one thing that gives back to me. If I feel like, in fact after my sister, sometimes I feel like I need something, you know, to refill my cup and it’s nature, by getting out in nature, ocean. That’s what fills my cup back up so that I can give more.
Art Costello: Yeah. I’m a water person also. I love being along the water. I love, you know, my dream someday is to have a house overlooking the Pacific Ocean somewhere.–
Lorraine Hoving: Yeah.
Art Costello: –Maybe, maybe it would be in Victoria. Who knows? You know (laughs). It’s one of my dreams is to have a house overlooking the Pacific. I find it so relaxing and invigorating and
Lorraine Hoving: –Right. Our condo over there when you walk in, all you see is ocean. I’ll have to send you a photo, Art, is just out there, you got an invitation.
Art Costello: Well I’m sure I’ll get there, cause I just love it up there. I’ve been to Banff in British Columbia.–
Lorraine Hoving: Oh, isn’t that amazing?
Art Costello: –Oh, yeah, you know it’s great. I’m trying to think of who it is that lives up on the island up in Victoria. One of our friends that you and I know has a place up there. I have to, here goes 72 again, I can’t remember.
Lorraine Hoving: –You think about it. You can message it to me, I’d love that.
Art Costello: –Yeah, I will, yeah. So what words of wisdom do you wanna leave our, our guests with?
Lorraine Hoving: The words of wisdom for your guest today, this is it, we are only promised today, and death unfortunately is no respecter of persons. You could be six, or you could be 90, when your time is up on this earth, because we all know that eventually what will happen to us. So take today, and make today most incredible day that you can for others by reaching out to other people, living today, being present with your family and friends, instead of thinking about work or thinking of this. Be present with those that you love. And then my other best advice for those that, maybe are morbidly obese and are stuck in that prison. I know what that prison is like. I know how dark those walls are. I want to let you know there is hope. The hope is you, you have to take responsibility for you. But can you do it? Yes you can. Because for years and years I looked up before, and after pictures and said: “I’ll never be that. I’ll never be that.” But guess what? I’m a before and after picture, and you can be too. So I wanna give you hope, ever listening that has, and into an obsession with, Ooh, there is hope. My hope, I needed accountability, I joined weight watchers, I needed to be with other people that have the same problem, but there’s hope for everyone. So two things, live today, like it may be your last, or like it may be somebody else’s last, love on people, be present and then there’s hope for those that need hope in conquering their weight problem. You guys can do it. If Lorraine can do it, anybody can do it.“We are only promised today… So take today and make today the most incredible day that you can for others by reaching out to other people, living today, being present with your family and friends instead of thinking about work or thinking of… Click To Tweet
Art Costello: That’s right. Can you tell our guests where they can get ahold of you, and how they can get ahold of you, and give us all the pertinent information?
Lorraine Hoving: Yes, If you would like to get ahold of me, feel free to go to my website, which is Lorraine Hoving, Hoving is spelled H-O-V as in Victory, I-N-G.com (lorrainehoving.com). And here if you want to sign up to my email list, I’ll send you, 10 you have living an extraordinary life, not just about weight loss, but living an extraordinary life, having a positive attitude. And then also you’ll learn more about my, never too late ever family, and my radio show. And then if you would like to hire me for a speaking engagement, or to talk to me about speaking at and giving you some advice, I would be more than happy. And if you have just an email, or concern about being morbidly obese, feel free to get ahold of me because I can email you back, and let you know some thoughts on all of that. But I’m here for you. Yeah, I’ve so enjoyed being with Art today.“There's hope for those that need hope in conquering their weight problem.” –Lorraine Hoving Click To Tweet
Art Costello: Thank you Lorraine. And folks, that’s all the information is right there. And I’m gonna encourage you to go and seek it, because Lorraine can really help you achieve the goals that you want. And I’m honored to have you on the show.
Lorraine Hoving: Absolutely, I’ve loved it.
Art Costello: Yeah. Well that’s what we’re gonna do it again (laughs). Third Time’s a charm, so we’ll do it again. With that being said, thank you everybody. Thank you for listening in today. You know where you can get ahold of me, expectationtherapy.com, all the social media sites, and thank you again Lorraine. Thank you.
About Lorraine Hoving
Dr. Anthony Beck is a practitioner of Functional Medicine for over two decades. A lot of his backstory revolves around her mother who didn’t care about her wellbeing. This drives him to understand people outside the clinical encounter. He believes in the totality of an individual. Thus, he helps his patients realize that their unique biochemistry and the working together of their systems are key factors in determining their optimum health.
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